Late or Rushed Marriage?

Writer: Salma Eladly

Marriage is often thought of as the most important thing for boys and girls to accomplish. But what marriage actually entails is different for both genders. Late marriage looked down upon in our society; it’s something that should be avoided at all costs. But is rushed marriage really the correct thing to do? Or is it okay to be a little late?

   Nowadays, society pressures one to get married as soon as possible. “Find yourself a good husband/wife” they always tell the youth. In my opinion, rushing marriage is wrong. People rush to get married because ‘life is short’, ‘you’re growing old’, and whatsoever. All these reasons are absolute bullshit. Because how can you be sure that you’re getting married to the right person if you’re rushing it?

   According to a study held by the U.S. Census Bureau in 2012, “there are 112 million unmarried people over the age of 18 in the U.S, representing nearly 47% of the adult population “. Those who think of marriage as the key to a successful life seem to view this as a huge problem.

   We can’t ignore the fact that rushed marriage is a major reason for divorce. Imagine marrying someone and then realizing they are not who they claim to be. Not only can rushing marriage get you divorced sometime in the future, but it can also cost you a lot. You pay for a wedding, dress, tux, food, and a lot of other things. You might not agree on everything your partner wants or needs. 

   Nevertheless, just because you got married late doesn’t mean you made a mistake. At least you would know who you’re dealing with. Marriage isn’t just about organizing a huge wedding and inviting a shit ton of people. It’s about responsibility, love, and communication.

   Don’t rush your marriage and don’t worry if it’s late. Everything takes time. Make sure you are tying down knots with the right person.